One thing that strikes me when I see the new guys entering the world of pickup is that they’re very accustomed to being the ones selected by girls. I mean, when you’re learning the skills to attract women you have to make many approaches, you see a set of girls and you approach them, hoping that the conversation doesn’t go sour.

And maybe you are making the mistake of not selecting the girl you want to attract before you made the approach.

Ok, I understand when that happens to the new guys. They are so focus on keep the conversation going that they turn their attention to the first girl that seem interested in them. But, what’s the point of that? You learn to attract women so that you have the power to attract the girl you want, not the first girl who’s giving you her attention. If you dig deeper you’ll understand why this happen:

Many of these guys are attracting the first or second girl in their lives. It’s only natural that they get excited and forget the girl that made them make the approach.

Now, I want you to ask yourself a question. When it comes to women and dating, are you the one selecting the girl you like?

Many of us struggle to approach and attract girls. And let me tell you: if you don’t have the skills to attract women you’ll be the one who’s getting selected all the time. And I’m being optimistic; many guys don’t get selected at all.

People have different levels of dealing with issues. Have you ever thrown in a comment in a conversation but it turned out to be disastrous? Yeah, that is what i mean. Before you learnt the different types of people we have, your jokes must have landed you in deep shit. This happens to flirting too. Men are very loose with flirtation lines and they sometimes suffer for it. When a man is flattered the reaction is different from when a girl is flattered. Flirtations are the main cause of temptations. This greatly determines the level of relationship between a man and a woman. In a recent study, single men have a tendency to look at the women they have just met in a negative light. They see them as guilty till proven innocent. When interpreting flirtation, women see it as hitting on them. Women react in a positive way after meeting the potential partner. If you flirt with a woman, chances are she will take you seriously and encourage a romantic relationship. Women might be wrong in interpreting flirtation because they are very sensitive to feelings and will open themselves to emotions at the slightest show of interest. Men flirt for fun and they do not expect anyone to take it seriously. This explains why they do not see it as a threat to romantic relationship while women find it a dangerous threat to a relationship. If a woman is not ready to leave her current relationship, she is going to be hesitant to flirt. Men who are already married will flirt around and have no fear of compromising their relationship.The study has revealed that women resist temptation if they think it can in the least affect their relationships. In other words, men are shy to ward off temptation. Men and women are different at interpreting flirtation. Men rarely see flirting as temptations. To them, it is just pure innocent interaction. This is because, according to research they are not shaken by interacting with available and attractive girls. Otherwise, if it meant anything to their constant relationships, they would be putting some effort to avoid the temptations. Some 70 unsuspecting males were used to carry out the research. They were made to flirt with attractive women after being introduced into a strategy aimed at helping them learn how to avoid flirting and tempting women.The researchers observed the reaction of all the men as they were being approached by exceptionally attractive women. Most of them ended up with start up lines like “wow, you are pretty, did the sun come out or did you just smile?” This was off course pure flirtation. Men are flirt animals and no amount of teaching strategies will change their view towards flirting. Women felt flattered and their reaction suggested that they believed every single word. Their way of interpreting flirtation might lead to more heartbreaks. No wonder they will hail abuses at a man who shows any sign of flirting without seriousness. Women are very trusting beings and they believe what they hear more than what they see.

You’re probably like most other guys.  An average guy.  A decent, hard-working fellow that is nice, neat, and respectful.  You listen to her attentively.  You’re polite and cautious with what you say and do.  There’s only one problem:

Average equates to boring. 

Don’t get me wrong.  There’s absolutely nothing wrong with any of the things that are mentioned above.  It’s just that they don’t make you stand out from the crowd.  Keep being decent, hardworking, and the rest of it.  Well, you might want to rethink the cautious with what you say and do.  This is where loosening up will be a big improvement.

The fastest way to stand out in a crowd is to be funny.  The second way is knowing what to do to have fun.  The first can be a little tricky to master, but the second is a matter of talking and asking questions, then listening to answers.  Which is interesting conversation. 

When you find out what other people, girls in particular, like to do, become the supplier of that fun.  If they like to talk about politics, suggest going to a political rally and follow it up with a discussion at a local pub.  If the group of girls you have been talking with like comedy, suggest going to a comedy club for the evening.  Become the guy who’s knowledgeable about what’s going on around town.  The guy that knows how to make a good time.  The guy that everyone goes to.  That’s not average. 

 Standing out from the crowd can take many forms.  The point is that anyone can do average.  Making yourself special is a way to become more attractive to the opposite sex.  You will stand out in her mind, and that’s what you want.  And you’ll never be average again.

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In today’s article of how to approach a girl, we are going to touch on one of the topics of seduction which puzzles and intrigues many men aspiring to be decent seducers. The topic which we will be covering today will be congruence. You see, not many people will pay attention to the topic of congruence, but it is in fact essential in the overall result of the seduction. There are 3 reasons why this is so important, and I will tell you exactly why below:

1.) Congruence refers to having an internally consistent personality. Attractive women meet literally thousands of men by the time they reach the young age of twenty five, and they of all people would know that men would put their best foot forward when meeting them, because they know that all men would try to give a good impression.

2.) Women search for congruence in a man. If a man has supposedly given a women the impression that he has wealth and status, then he should be confident and already having lots of beautiful women around him. If you are shifty-eyed and talking nervously, women will know that you are being incongruent.

3.) Women place a lot of importance on a guy’s congruence. In short, women must be able to make quick judgements on whether the guy is the real deal or not. The last thing that a women would want is to be dating a guy whom she thinks is a movie director, only to find out that he is a jobless guy!

That’s all for today’s article on congruence. For more pointers on the topic of congruence, click here for more tips to seduce.

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As men,  we all enjoy looking at beautiful women,  there is no question about that.  But,  why just be on the outside looking in?  Why not start dating these beautful women instead of just wishing or wanting to do this?

Most men have a healthy or actually unhealthy dose of fear when it comes to approaching pretty women.  They may want to get with the hottest girls,  but do they really know how to be successful with these kinds of attractive women?

Probably not.

I have to tell you though,  once you start dating beautiful women,  you are not going to want to go back to sitting at home or hanging out with the fellas when you know that there is some place else that you want to be.

So,  how come so many guys fail to attract pretty women in the first place?

They give in to their fear and they stay far away at a safe distance.  And if they do decide to make an approach,  they do it in the worst way imaginable.  I can’t tell you how many guys I have seen stumble on their words and turn beet red in the face of attractive girls.

It almost makes you feel both sorry and a little bit ashamed all at the same time.  I mean,  does just a pretty face make you feel this way?  Want to know how you can change that feeling?

You can.  Even if you do not believe it at first,  you can learn how to change the way that you approach all women and especially beautiful women so that you create a sense of desire in her.

Go to: Dating Beautiful Women

to find out HOW!